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Don’t let Other People Define Who We Are
Why we should not allow other people to determine who we are and what we can accomplish.
“You are stupid.”
“You can’t do anything right.”
“You’re ugly.”
“You have cooties (whatever that means).”
“You smell.”
These are the messages I heard when I was growing up from my parents and from bullies in Grade 5 to 10. I came to believe that I was an inferior being that deserved to be punished.
My parents’ physical abuse reinforced the idea that I was a basket case. When I looked at other people, they seemed to have a secret knowledge about how to live life that I lacked.
The fallout of being mistreated was dramatic. I had low-self esteem and suffered from anxiety and depression. The words above became recordings in my brain that sabotaged my life. When I would try to do a job, build a relationship, or use my talents the false messages would play.
How to Get Rid of False Ideas About Ourselves
Question the way we view ourselves
I started questioning negative beliefs about myself when I was around twelve years old. I saw that my classmates, at least on the surface, were not…
